There’s this new wave of thinking that people are riding now. In real life, men are the prize…. Yessss, I know! And I love that for them, truly I do. I love that men are somewhat seeing their worth in that they really do bring a lot to the relational world… or that they could bring a lot to the relationship; but the contingency is seemingly if she works for it.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with this Columbus type discovery. If you like it, I’ll go with it. In fact, in the beginning of time, I think women were presumed to be the prize. Biblically, you have stories like Jacob and Rachel, where he wanted to marry Rachel, got tricked into marrying her sister, and then had to “work” 7 additional years before he could have her.
Romeo and Juliette…. A deadly passion of love. They sort of put in the work for each other, but Romeo basically had to die just so he could have her. (I’m aware they both died, but he died first). Talk about ultimate prize? Jesus did the same thing to show his love…
One more example to support this prize presumption; Steve and Laura in family matters. I don’t have to give the run down because I’m sure you know.
For a long time, women were the prize. Now the roles have reversed and men feel like they are. And man, do they have my good sisses jumping through hoops to obtain them fully. Because men want to be the prize, women do find themselves competing, working, auditioning, settling, and convincing they are worthy of their hearts.
I’m not knocking it at all… but, it’s just not what I want. I used to say, “you can be the prize as long as you remember I’m the gift”.
But now, I think I just want to have another gift. We receive gifts not because we do anything special or because we sowed the right seeds and did the right moves… we get gifts because someone wanted to show their love and appreciation just because we exist. To me, that’s way sweeter.
We are worthy of all we have in life, so you shouldn’t have to prove it to anyone or convince them to see.
Don’t love me because of what I do or base it on the value I bring to your life, love me “just because” you want to give it to me. No stipulations, no conditions, just “I saw this and thought of you”.