In today’s time, “the man is the prize”. And I say, yes the man is the prize. I hope to one day feel like I won someone worth having… someone I’m proud to be with. But also, there are a lot of issues with this “prize” mentality. Like, how do you win? If ultimately there is only one of him, do you have to compete? How many of us are in this round?
Okay maybe this isn’t a problem per say but for the grown woman, ain’t nobody got time for a bunch of games and a bunch of bullshit, excuse my colloquialism… nonetheless it doesn’t exactly make me want to play. I had a guy tell me once my issue is because I didn’t feel like I could win against other women, but it’s honestly because “is it really a prize?“ like best case scenario, I get him… is he an asset or a liability? Because, yeah. I got questions.
A lot of people (men and women) don’t be giving what they supposed to give and we could all benefit from humility. But on an even more serious note, I have no problem with treating my man, or any man for that matter like he’s the prize. Lol you can be the prize baby and I’ll happily tell everyone that I’m overly joyful to have won a man of such value.
Although the Bible said to be a man or valor but… that’s not my business…. or wait, I’m not gonna miss a moment to empty this clip. I think men should shift their focus to being a man of valor instead of a man of value… the Greek definition of valor comes from “arete” which essentially leads to one being a man worth honoring. A man of great virtue and moral of excellence… a man of quality… while you’re out here trying to be the prize and force women to work for your value and status, be someone who deserves great honor. Alright. I digress. It’s giving Kevin Samuels and that’s not how I want to be heard.
I’m ready to accept I’m difficult…. My spunk, heart, gall and passion means more to me than being some man’s “wife” at this point, and I’m ready to give up on that and choose my freedom to be. Because being your wife, and accepting your last name is not a prize for me… being loved well and the way I desire is.
Okay! Back to the point. YES I WANT MY MAN TO BE THE PRIZE AND I ANTICIPATE TREATING HIM AS SUCH AND LETTING THE WHOLE WORLD KNOW, “HEY I WON WITH HIM.”
I have no issue with this and I hope all my female readers will follow suit because these good men really are the prize now a days. You know how hard it is to meet the right man, let alone a good one? Yes ma’am,
they are the prize…. But I need my man to know I’M THE GIFT and I expected to be treated as such. A gift is usually something that comes as the result of “thought”. It’s special… has meaning/purpose. And when it’s the right gift, you handle it with great care and consideration. You handle a gift differently.
And maybe this is where I screw my self because, it’s not important to me for a man to “work” to have me… because once he does the “work” to have me, the consistency usually fades. I don’t care for a man to “work” for me because I’m a gift. I only need you to appreciate and handle me with great care and consideration.
My value is with me so I don’t need you treat me like a prize to make me feel valuable. I already know I am, just appreciate the gift in front of you…. and the more appreciation and care you show for the gift God allowed to walk in your life, the more this gift will keep on giving … the better the position of receiving. The gifts from God are free. You don’t have to “do” anything in particular to get it, because it’s a gift. You just have to steward it well… and multiply it… almost like if you water it it will grow… go figure.
If you want to be the prize, I’m prepared to treat and see you as such. However you want to be treated is how I (and I assume most women) want to treat you. Just don’t forget while you’re shining your balls, that I’m the gift.